Praise & Blame Are All the Same

One of the most unavoidable life lessons is having to deal with the disapproval of others.


Praise and blame are all the same is a fancy way of reminding yourself of the old cliché that you’ll never able to please all the people all the time. Even in a landslide election victory in which a candidate secured 55 percent of the vote, he or she is left with 45 percent of the population that wishes someone else were the winner. Pretty humbling, isn’t it?

Our approval rating from family, friends, and the people we work with isn’t likely to be much higher. The truth is, everyone has their own set of ideas with which to evaluate life, and our ideas don’t always match those with other people. For some reason, however, most of us struggle against this inevitable fact. We get angry, hurt, or otherwise frustrated when people reject our ideas, tell us no, or give us some other form of disapproval.

The sooner we accept the inevitable dilemma of not being able to win the approval of everyone we meet, the easier our lives will become. When you expect to be dished out your share of disapproval instead of struggling against this fact, you’ll develop a helpful perspective to assist your life journey. Rather than feeling rejected by disapproval, you can remind yourself, “Here it is again. That’s okay.”

I find that there are many days when I experience both praise and blame. This back and forth, good and bad, approval and disapproval is part of everyone’s life. I’m the first to admit that I always prefer approval over disapproval. It feels better and it’s certainly easier to deal with. The more content I’ve become, however, the less I depend on it for my sense of well-being.”

Richard Carlson, Don’t Sweat the Small Stuff... and It’s All Small Stuff 📖


I hope this excerpt from an amazing book helped to bring some insight and perspective today. 

You are amazing, keep your light on

💛 J